Kate
Tigue is the Head of Youth Services at the Morrill Memorial Library. Read her
column in the December 27, 2018 edition of the Norwood Transcript and Bulletin.
Can you stand to read books or watch
television programs or movies with unlikable protagonists? It certainly is
challenging to connect with characters who do, say or believe things that
breach cultural norms, don't meet our
standards of courteousness or are just plain wrong! It’s easy to distance
ourselves as readers when we encounter characters who clearly take delight in
hurting others and call them villains. But what about characters who are
unlikable in the middle of very sympathetic situations, like navigating
difficult life circumstances? It’s more
difficult to forgive missteps as a reader when complicated characters don’t
meet our expectations, even when they are trying their best.
Author Toni Morrison once wrote, “The ability
of writers to imagine what is not the self, to familiarize the strange and
mystify the familiar, is the test of their power”. I take Ms. Morrison’s quote to mean that good
authors should seek to challenge their readers by helping them question their
own assumptions and showing them how their own circumstances shape judgments
about others through creating fictional people.
Creating unlikable main characters is a great way for writers to
explore difficult themes in an otherwise unassuming story about everyday life.
Grief is a commonly explored theme in fiction and these types of stories often
produce the most challenging characters to connect with, even though readers
might empathize with their terrible losses.
Nora Webster is Colm
Toibin’s poignant character study of a woman widowed in her forties who must
continue on with everyday existence for her children. It was the subject of a
recent book discussion at the library and people’s response to titular
character prompted me to reflect on how I respond to difficult characters.
Toibin presents Nora as a reserved woman whose husband was the center of her
world. She had no other interests or work beyond being a wife and a mother in a
very conservative Ireland of the late 60s and early 70s. She’s completely
unsure of herself, often impulsive and resentful of the well-meaning attempts
of friends and family to help her. It’s so tempting to judge her as a character
and, in fact, many book discussion participants railed at her, wondering
“What’s the matter with her? Why does she act that way?”. But Toibin is a
clever author and provides glimpses of how she lived her life before her
husband died and how different her inner emotional life is now that he is gone.
It forces the audience to ask themselves the uncomfortable question, “How would
I feel in that circumstance?”. Many us
would like to think they would do better but a good author might make us less
sure.
Most of us know David Sedaris for his darkly
comic essay collections that center on his family, his childhood,and his
exploits as a traveling author. Calypso, his latest effort, has a
dark undercurrent of grief as he illustrates his complicated relationships with
his siblings, especially his sister Tiffany who died by suicide in 2013. Calypso
chronicles his efforts to gather his family together for vacations and holiday
celebrations in a hastily-purchased beach house in North Carolina. Sedaris
never shrinks away from casting himself as an unlikeable narrator of his own
stories, often admitting his flaws and his mistakes in dealing with his sister
and the rest of his family. Once again,
readers can choose to focus on how differently they might react but Sedaris’
honesty and humor keep him relatable and encourage us to reflect on our own
foibles.
Sometimes unlikeable characters engage in
bizarre and outlandish behavior so the author can explore how past trauma affects their
reality. Maria Semple’s Where’d
You Go, Bernadette chronicles a stay-at-home mother’s attempts to
assert herself after completely losing all of her social and professional
confidence. Bernadette is the cranky, misanthropic mother of Bee, a precocious
middle schooler and the only person Bernadette can stand. Her behavior spins
out of control as she tries to connect with her daughter and plan a family trip
to Antarctica. Semple’s plot is
far-fetched and absurd but it reveals Bernadette’s intense pain about her
massive failures as an architect and the miscarriages she endured before Bee’s
birth.
Here’s my professional advice if you run into
a character you just can’t stand: stick with the book. Yes, life is too short
to read bad books, but if you find other parts of the book or other characters
intriguing, enjoyable, or valuable, keep engaging with the unlikeable main
character. Secondly, ask yourself why
you harshly judge a fictional person. Is it because this character does
incomprehensible things? Try put aside your own viewpoint and give the
character the benefit of the doubt as you would a good friend. It might make
their perspective more clear and let you access the story in a way you couldn’t
have if you insisted on applying your own judgements to the book. If all
authors only wrote characters we could relate to and cheer for, reading would
not only be boring but also lack any artistic merit. Books should and can
comfort us, inform us and reveal things to us if only we let them.